How are you today? Fine I hope. One of the things I had in mind to work on this year is self-confidence and being more personal on the blog. Confession: I used to be somewhat insecure about my body. Surprised? Don’t be. There should be more to blogging right? Dealing with body insecurities is something a lot of teenagers and even adults go through.
Prior to Senior Secondary school, I was slightly a tomboy and it had an effect on how I saw myself as a female. I had friends with curves and all the feminine thing going on while I was just there. Some might call me a late bloomer but yes, I am one. At this present day, I still have slight insecurity about the way my legs look. I am 5’9 and my legs are long. My legs have been called all sort of names which make me hide them behind jeans. Don’t get me wrong, I do love myself but it’s okay to feel insecure once in while. I have also learned that we can’t all be perfect. Some people look up to billboard models and stars with perfect bodies but some of them confess to living a strict life and pushing themselves hard just to stay perfect.
But nature doesn’t make us all in the same size, shape, same nose type, hair color, bum size, beard type, muscularity and all which leaves some people wanting to be like someone else. People give advice about accepting yourself for who you are but it is easier said than done really. It is however possible to change some things about yourself. One thing I’ve learned is most of the insecurities come from our mind and the moment you tell yourself what’s right to think about yourself, you start to act like it.
I used to hate my height, feel conscious about my bust size, cry about my flat bum, used to be terribly shy and didn’t like my smile at all but right now? I adore my body! Heard of ladies who hate their stretch marks. Like why? Most importantly, the body isn’t all there is to a person, what about personality? What about intelligence? What about good habits? What about a good hustle? There is so much to love about yourself. And the major one, not letting other people’s say about your body affect you.
Being an undergraduate in a school with a lot of fine, sexy and smart girls, I have been compared so many times that I laugh at people’s ignorance now. Some girls cover up with makeup but if you have noticed, I don’t exactly wear makeup except there’s a need to. Love my face bare and I see no reason why anyone should feel unhappy with how their real face looks like. Every person has a unique thing about them and that is what makes them what they are. In summary, your body is yours and the temple of God. You and only you have a say on how you see it.
Now to today’s outfit, I have on the offshoulder ankara cape dress from The Brand Honey. It is available for order in all sizes. A cape is a sleeveless outer garment that is being attached to a cloth bodice which drapes the wearer’s back arms and chest. Capes have been on the fashion scene since the nineteenth century though it has had periodic returns. Capes are of different designs and they are a captivating piece.
I am not exactly one to follow fashion trends as I wear what I want whenever I want to. This is my first outfit with a cape and guess who chose the style? My mum! She knows how much I love offshoulder outfits. I styled this Ankara cape dress from The Brand Honey with studded open toe wedge (I still hate heels. Read why here) from Atmosphere and my glasses case came handy as a purse because why not? My sister’s pearl drop earrings completed the look. Just ignore my hair lol. This Ankara cape dress is perfect for any Owanbe and Sunday service slaying.
Pictures were taken by my good friend Timilehin who is also a student of Unibadan and one of the baddest photographers. Follow him on Instagram @tp_dapson
Ever had body insecurity issues before or you still do? How did you deal with it? Would you jump on the Ankara cape dress trend or let it slide? Share below. The best part of posting on this blog is getting your feedback and comments. What are your thoughts about this post?
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