How are you today? Great I hope. All ye that prayed for harmattan, hope y’all happy now? I wish it’d start raining already. Was trying to put up a style post today but WordPress seems to have a mind of its own so relating with the ex is the issue for discussion today. Oh well, finally got around to name this series of rants I put up once in a while. They will be referred to as candid talk now.
If you happen to be a social media addict like myself, you probably follow one or two or more of those Twitter or Instagram relationship accounts e.g. Joro Olumofin, Unilag Olodo etc. I have read a lot of posts their followers send in and wonder how people actually relate with their ex(es). That thought spun this post of how people are relating with the ex.
I am of the opinion that a relationship shouldn’t end so messy that you wouldn’t be able to relate well with your ex or the guy/girl involved afterwards. I am good friends with my first boyfriend and in fact, he happens to be in the same university I am in and we get to see often. However, we are both clear on where we stand and are strictly just friends. Same goes for the others.
You should be able to talk or chill with your ex and nothing would be attached, unless you are not over them yet and I think you should let them know in such a case. There are relationships that should have stayed in the friendship level but due to a reason or another, things escalated. There’s no need dragging what wasn’t that deep. Life is honestly too short to not be with who you really want to be with.
Some people find it so hard moving on after a break up. There was a story I read on Joro’s Instagram page in which the girl already had a boyfriend yet she was still sleeping with her ex. Gosh! I had exclaimed. I believe there is always a reason why a break up occurs and in a situation whereby the two people involved are so wrapped around themselves, it’s better to at least try and make it work instead of carrying the past into a new relationship and having your boyfriend/girlfriend jealous or questioning about your ex. Then there was this post of a girl asking for advice when her ex bought her a car and her fiance told her to return it or break up. And the stories go on and on.
Lol seems like most of the stories revolving around ex issues have to do with ladies. When breaking up, you should define what the break up entails. Would you still be friends? Can you date friends of his/hers? Would you communicate like you used to? Would it be fine to receive help or gifts from the ex? Is it okay to tell your new partner about your ex? However, I think if a relationship ends on a bad term, then you might want to stay away for as long as you want to get over the past issue. When you’re ready, move on and forgive.
I am no relationship expert but this is what I think about relating with the ex candidly. I might be wrong or something, so let me know what you think relating with the ex should be like. Would really love it if you’d share your thoughts and experience. The best of posting here is getting your feedback and comments. What are your thoughts about this post?
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