Candid Talk | | Notion That Men Are Scum x Giveaway

With the sudden increase in advocacy for feminism this year and the last, the statement ‘all men are scum’ has found a way to feature in almost every day conversation, stemming from the fact that females suddenly think the male ways are dishonest. I was bound to share my candid thoughts about the notion that men are scum. In fact, there is a website that documents scum experience submitted by females and the scum guys are rated on a scumometer. Some of the experience I found on Lists Ng told by ladies include:

One of my faves. Saw nudes on his phone. Asked him about it. IN FRONT OF ME he deletes all the pictures then says to me “what nudes where?”

Dropped me at home so he could take another girl clubbing. Went to the club to meet them and he acted like I didn’t exist

I met wet pant in the bathroom n he said he bought it for me but wanted to wash it first 😂, he must have washed it too hard it was FADING. 😭

The things girls have gone through with scums will surprise you. I was trying really hard not to laugh and yet feeling pity at the same time. Had my own share of experience with guys that are scum but they’re just lessons now. I could summarize this blog post into the fact that we are all scum but being a scientist, facts are to be backed up and among the reasons we are all scum include:

We all lie

Show me a person who claims he/she doesn’t lie and we’d have a good laugh off it. Lying isn’t restricted to one sex and so long as everyone’s prone to lying, it makes no sense to call men scum because they lie or are deceptive, as we all lie one way or another. Lying isn’t restricted to any age either and being a scum cuts across all ages as well.

We are all selfish

As humans, it is fairly normal for most people to think of themselves before others and in the process of this happening, the scum feature sets in. This also makes it possible for either member of both sexes to cheat members of the opposite sex. I mean even family member behave in a scum way to each other yet people don’t say family is scum.

We all play games

I follow quite a number of Instagram relationship accounts and advice columns that post real life situations sent in by anonymous people. Let us be candid, girls play games in relationships (even friendship) and so do guys like I shared in my harassment story. The ratio cannot be equated because when you hear the story of a guy who proposed to a girl just to get her to have sex, you’d hear the story of a girl who led on a guy and eventually got enough money from him to marry the guy she actually likes. It’s pathetic, this generation of ours in which honesty has become gold.

Before you join the men are scum campaign, you should keep it in mind that we behave in almost the same ways. With these few points of mine, I hope I have been able to convince you and not confuse you that both men and women are scum. Thank you! *takes a bow*

The Giveaway!

This is to thank you, for supporting this small girl and her blog. I get overwhelmed some times when I see your comments and views.

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Giving away one Tecno Boom headphones for a genuine music lover and blog reader. The rules are pretty easy and simple.

  • Be subscribed to the blog.
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  • Leave a comment below with reason(s) you want the headphones, your name and email. Won’t be selecting the winner randomly as I really want to give the headphones to someone who really deserves it.
  • Giveaway is open to Nigerians. Winner should have a way to pick up from Ibadan or be willing to arrange for delivery.
  • Giveaway ends on October 8, 2017.

Good luck!

P.s. The academic strike is finally off and my rant from the school is hard post seems slightly amusing now.

Candid Talk: Relating With The Ex

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Hi readers!
How are you today? Great I hope. All ye that prayed for harmattan, hope y’all happy now? I wish it’d start raining already. Was trying to put up a style post today but WordPress seems to have a mind of its own so relating with the ex is the issue for discussion today. Oh well, finally got around to name this series of rants I put up once in a while. They will be referred to as candid talk now.

If you happen to be a social media addict like myself, you probably follow one or two or more of those Twitter or Instagram relationship accounts e.g. Joro Olumofin, Unilag Olodo etc. I have read a lot of posts their followers send in and wonder how people actually relate with their ex(es). That thought spun this post of how people are relating with the ex.

I am of the opinion that a relationship shouldn’t end so messy that you wouldn’t be able to relate well with your ex or the guy/girl involved afterwards. I am good friends with my first boyfriend and in fact, he happens to be in the same university I am in and we get to see often. However, we are both clear on where we stand and are strictly just friends. Same goes for the others.

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You should be able to talk or chill with your ex and nothing would be attached, unless you are not over them yet and I think you should let them know in such a case. There are relationships that should have stayed in the friendship level but due to a reason or another, things escalated. There’s no need dragging what wasn’t that deep. Life is honestly too short to not be with who you really want to be with.

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Some people find it so hard moving on after a break up. There was a story I read on Joro’s Instagram page in which the girl already had a boyfriend yet she was still sleeping with her ex. Gosh! I had exclaimed. I believe there is always a reason why a break up occurs and in a situation whereby the two people involved are so wrapped around themselves, it’s better to at least try and make it work instead of carrying the past into a new relationship and having your boyfriend/girlfriend jealous or questioning about your ex. Then there was this post of a girl asking for advice when her ex bought her a car and her fiance told her to return it or break up. And the stories go on and on.

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Lol seems like most of the stories revolving around ex issues have to do with ladies. When breaking up, you should define what the break up entails. Would you still be friends? Can you date friends of his/hers? Would you communicate like you used to? Would it be fine to receive help or gifts from the ex? Is it okay to tell your new partner about your ex? However, I think if a relationship ends on a bad term, then you might want to stay away for as long as you want to get over the past issue. When you’re ready, move on and forgive.

I am no relationship expert but this is what I think about relating with the ex candidly. I might be wrong or something, so let me know what you think relating with the ex should be like. Would really love it if you’d share your thoughts and experience. The best of posting here is getting your feedback and comments. What are your thoughts about this post?

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