Candid Talk | | Notion That Men Are Scum x Giveaway

With the sudden increase in advocacy for feminism this year and the last, the statement ‘all men are scum’ has found a way to feature in almost every day conversation, stemming from the fact that females suddenly think the male ways are dishonest. I was bound to share my candid thoughts about the notion that men are scum. In fact, there is a website that documents scum experience submitted by females and the scum guys are rated on a scumometer. Some of the experience I found on Lists Ng told by ladies include:

One of my faves. Saw nudes on his phone. Asked him about it. IN FRONT OF ME he deletes all the pictures then says to me “what nudes where?”

Dropped me at home so he could take another girl clubbing. Went to the club to meet them and he acted like I didn’t exist

I met wet pant in the bathroom n he said he bought it for me but wanted to wash it first 😂, he must have washed it too hard it was FADING. 😭

The things girls have gone through with scums will surprise you. I was trying really hard not to laugh and yet feeling pity at the same time. Had my own share of experience with guys that are scum but they’re just lessons now. I could summarize this blog post into the fact that we are all scum but being a scientist, facts are to be backed up and among the reasons we are all scum include:

We all lie

Show me a person who claims he/she doesn’t lie and we’d have a good laugh off it. Lying isn’t restricted to one sex and so long as everyone’s prone to lying, it makes no sense to call men scum because they lie or are deceptive, as we all lie one way or another. Lying isn’t restricted to any age either and being a scum cuts across all ages as well.

We are all selfish

As humans, it is fairly normal for most people to think of themselves before others and in the process of this happening, the scum feature sets in. This also makes it possible for either member of both sexes to cheat members of the opposite sex. I mean even family member behave in a scum way to each other yet people don’t say family is scum.

We all play games

I follow quite a number of Instagram relationship accounts and advice columns that post real life situations sent in by anonymous people. Let us be candid, girls play games in relationships (even friendship) and so do guys like I shared in my harassment story. The ratio cannot be equated because when you hear the story of a guy who proposed to a girl just to get her to have sex, you’d hear the story of a girl who led on a guy and eventually got enough money from him to marry the guy she actually likes. It’s pathetic, this generation of ours in which honesty has become gold.

Before you join the men are scum campaign, you should keep it in mind that we behave in almost the same ways. With these few points of mine, I hope I have been able to convince you and not confuse you that both men and women are scum. Thank you! *takes a bow*

The Giveaway!

This is to thank you, for supporting this small girl and her blog. I get overwhelmed some times when I see your comments and views.

boom headphones

Giving away one Tecno Boom headphones for a genuine music lover and blog reader. The rules are pretty easy and simple.

  • Be subscribed to the blog.
  • Share this blog post on any social media platform. Help other people find the blog plus sharing is caring.
  • Leave a comment below with reason(s) you want the headphones, your name and email. Won’t be selecting the winner randomly as I really want to give the headphones to someone who really deserves it.
  • Giveaway is open to Nigerians. Winner should have a way to pick up from Ibadan or be willing to arrange for delivery.
  • Giveaway ends on October 8, 2017.

Good luck!

P.s. The academic strike is finally off and my rant from the school is hard post seems slightly amusing now.

Candid Talk: Getting Over A Fuckboy

Getting Over A Fuckboy

Hi readers!
How are you today? Great I hope. So far I have failed at beating last year’s record of blog posts in March. Please accept my apologies. Back with yet another candid talk post and this one is based on personal experience. I posted a series sometime last year relating to fuckboys and you can check them out here, here and here. The posts are really insightful, got reblogged by three sites and people said they are hilarious. Warning: This post contains several instance of the f-word. Stop reading now if you’re not comfortable lol.

Anyway, if you happen to have fallen into the hands of a fuckboy or player you can probably relate to this post well (or not). Back in 2015, I had my first bad experience in the hands of one and I am here today to tell you the steps needed in getting over a fuckboy. So how do I get over a fuckboy?

1. Do not, I repeat do not blame yourself. Well, well, we all seem to think we are smart when it comes to dating but I think I learned at the end of my fuckboy experience that it is okay to be stupid. I blamed myself for being stupid to have fallen into his trap. But I quickly realized how wrong I was. Many girls before me had fallen into the same trap and it was just the guy. It was him not declaring his intentions. It is okay to cry and get emotional. Yes you thought he was different. But did he define what you guys were?

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2. Minimize or cut all forms of communication. I don’t talk to the fuckboy in my narrative anymore because it feels better that way. I tried to chat normal but it wasn’t making sense. If you feel talking to him is going to tear you up or have you feeling some type of way, just don’t. If he happens to be the remorseful fuckboy, it might be okay to stay as friends with him but be careful you don’t fall into the old pattern.
Talking to someone also helps a lot. Friends that joke about it, make you laugh and forget will come handy. Write about it if it’d be better. These two methods worked for me. Life is honestly too short to be stuck crying over one guy. Leave trash for LAWMA!

3. Don’t stalk him. Still on my experience, I almost unfollowed and blocked the fuckboy’s media accounts I followed in a bid to not know what’s going on with him. Trust me, it can be annoying when you see a fuckboy happy when you’re not and when he has moved on to another victim? You’d want to rip his head off. Turn a blind eye to his activities if you don’t want to unfollow. Out of sight they say is out of mind.

4. Don’t dwell on the past. Some girls will still hold on to pictures and things from the past. Beht why? Yes yes it’s okay to fall in love with a fuckboy but get him off your mind. It’s okay to miss him but don’t call to see if he wants to hang out or something. Don’t play the loyal role you did when y’all were together. Don’t make time out for him or leave him as a priority. In fact you should steer clear of him. A person who fucked you up once might gladly do it again.

Getting Over A Fuckboy

5. Don’t belittle yourself. The fact that you got played by a fuckboy doesn’t mean you’re anything less than beautiful or awesome. No one determines that except you. After an experience with a fuckboy, you’d most likely meet other decent guys who will appreciate every bit of your being. Although it’d take time getting back into the relationship vibes, slowly and steadily you’d be back to normal. Get that glow on, slay your makeup, look good and stay confident! Pepper them!

who you make yourself to be

Happiness is one thing everyone should strive for and a fuckboy should not deprive you of that. There you have ’em! Ladies in the house, ever fallen into the hands of a fuckboy? How was the experience like? How did you get over him? Which of these points can you relate to the most? Do leave a comment below. The best part of posting on this blog is getting your feedback and comments. What are your thoughts about this post?

P.s: I just realized how cool it would have been if this fuckboy blog post was a vlog. Hmmm shall I start a YouTube channel? What do you think?

Do tell a friend to tell a friend to check this blog out.

Thanks for stopping by ❤

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