Candid Talk: Getting Over A Fuckboy

Getting Over A Fuckboy

Hi readers!
How are you today? Great I hope. So far I have failed at beating last year’s record of blog posts in March. Please accept my apologies. Back with yet another candid talk post and this one is based on personal experience. I posted a series sometime last year relating to fuckboys and you can check them out here, here and here. The posts are really insightful, got reblogged by three sites and people said they are hilarious. Warning: This post contains several instance of the f-word. Stop reading now if you’re not comfortable lol.

Anyway, if you happen to have fallen into the hands of a fuckboy or player you can probably relate to this post well (or not). Back in 2015, I had my first bad experience in the hands of one and I am here today to tell you the steps needed in getting over a fuckboy. So how do I get over a fuckboy?

1. Do not, I repeat do not blame yourself. Well, well, we all seem to think we are smart when it comes to dating but I think I learned at the end of my fuckboy experience that it is okay to be stupid. I blamed myself for being stupid to have fallen into his trap. But I quickly realized how wrong I was. Many girls before me had fallen into the same trap and it was just the guy. It was him not declaring his intentions. It is okay to cry and get emotional. Yes you thought he was different. But did he define what you guys were?

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2. Minimize or cut all forms of communication. I don’t talk to the fuckboy in my narrative anymore because it feels better that way. I tried to chat normal but it wasn’t making sense. If you feel talking to him is going to tear you up or have you feeling some type of way, just don’t. If he happens to be the remorseful fuckboy, it might be okay to stay as friends with him but be careful you don’t fall into the old pattern.
Talking to someone also helps a lot. Friends that joke about it, make you laugh and forget will come handy. Write about it if it’d be better. These two methods worked for me. Life is honestly too short to be stuck crying over one guy. Leave trash for LAWMA!

3. Don’t stalk him. Still on my experience, I almost unfollowed and blocked the fuckboy’s media accounts I followed in a bid to not know what’s going on with him. Trust me, it can be annoying when you see a fuckboy happy when you’re not and when he has moved on to another victim? You’d want to rip his head off. Turn a blind eye to his activities if you don’t want to unfollow. Out of sight they say is out of mind.

4. Don’t dwell on the past. Some girls will still hold on to pictures and things from the past. Beht why? Yes yes it’s okay to fall in love with a fuckboy but get him off your mind. It’s okay to miss him but don’t call to see if he wants to hang out or something. Don’t play the loyal role you did when y’all were together. Don’t make time out for him or leave him as a priority. In fact you should steer clear of him. A person who fucked you up once might gladly do it again.

Getting Over A Fuckboy

5. Don’t belittle yourself. The fact that you got played by a fuckboy doesn’t mean you’re anything less than beautiful or awesome. No one determines that except you. After an experience with a fuckboy, you’d most likely meet other decent guys who will appreciate every bit of your being. Although it’d take time getting back into the relationship vibes, slowly and steadily you’d be back to normal. Get that glow on, slay your makeup, look good and stay confident! Pepper them!

who you make yourself to be

Happiness is one thing everyone should strive for and a fuckboy should not deprive you of that. There you have ’em! Ladies in the house, ever fallen into the hands of a fuckboy? How was the experience like? How did you get over him? Which of these points can you relate to the most? Do leave a comment below. The best part of posting on this blog is getting your feedback and comments. What are your thoughts about this post?

P.s: I just realized how cool it would have been if this fuckboy blog post was a vlog. Hmmm shall I start a YouTube channel? What do you think?

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Introducing The Fuckboys: Questions Asked

Three of my favorite poets currently are @R.h.sin whose poems talk about true love and getting over someone who doesn’t appreciate you, @poetolu who does more of the humorous poetry and @pyrokardia whose poems talk about everything love related. You should follow them on Instagram for good doses of love.

Introducing The Fuckboys

Still on this fuckboy matter, I really appreciate all the contributions and comments so far. You can catch up on the previous posts here and here. Now to the third part of introducing the fuckboys! Some of the questions often asked about fuckboys include:


1. Why are guys fuckboys?

Tough one to answer. The best answer to this is: choosing to be a fuckboy is a personal decision. The thrill of it could be an ego booster for some guys. Guys feel excited by a new challenge being hunters normally. A new girl that seems like a challenge thrills them. So they take time to play her and then move on to a bigger challenge. There could be some occurrence that happens to some guys which change them from being good to bad guys. Families and friends too could be a factor in this. Some fuckboys do not feel loved hence the reason to move from one girl to another to feel a bit of being wanted. Also low self esteem could be responsible. Some guys think they are not worthy of love and hence don’t even bother to give it a try.

2. Can a fuckboy be changed?

Depends on what type of fuckboy. From the categories listed in the previous posts, the honest ones are the easiest to change. Although it is possible for a fuckboy to change when he meets a girl that he really likes, some times it would require a miracle to change a fuckboy. Although most of them mellow down when they start thinking of getting married. There are stories of a couple of fuckboys that changed.

3. Any hope in being with a fuckboy?

Ask yourself the question first: “are you emotionally sound?” If you’re strong enough to deal with whatever comes with a fuckboy, then there might be hope for you. Note that you could get so hurt you’d weep for days or weeks and keep questioning yourself what you did wrong.

4. What can you do then?

Stay away if you can. Don’t force yourself to stay in a situation with a fuckboy when you know there’s really nothing coming out of it. If you want a drama free life, don’t go into a relationship when you’re not ready to and define all your relations.

Soooo, what’s your take on this? Do you think a fuckboy can be changed or not? Got any question on this fuckboy issue?? Comment below. The best part of posting here is getting your feedback and comments. What are your thoughts about this post?

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Introducing The Fuckboys #2

Hello it’s me.
Sorry for the break in posting. This adulting thing is not easy and yet I’m still on my last lap of teenage life. Work got me struggling to post here.

I am really amazed by the feedback I got on the first post of the fuckboy series. Got a mention from one of my favorite bloggers and the post was reblogged with my permission on another site. Here is the second part of introducing fuckboys, check here for the first part.

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Meet In-The-Moment Fuckboy

This type of fuckboy is not a fuckboy on a normal day but spontaneously, he could be one. He probably has a girlfriend he adores on the side or not even ready for a relationship at all. However, alcohol or a situation can make him one. Friends can be quite an influence on guys.


Meet Mr Lucious Lie-on

This fuckboy is the type that thinks he’s smooth and has sugarcoated lips, would lie to you about feelings and other things but it’s easy to know he’s lying because he’s just not good at being one. Some would lie about their background just to get a girl to give them face and basically live a fake life. Lucious Lie-on (you know Lie-on is Lyon from Empire right?) is a weak fuckboy.

Meet The Honest Ones

These fuckboys will practically carry a warning around their necks. They would tell you several times how they don’t know how to love and can’t maintain a relationship. It is then up to you to decide if you want to get messed up or want to stay away. These are basically the best type of fuckboys. The only problem is their honesty and sincerity will have you falling for them faster than you can stay away. So you could get hurt but it’s not their fault in any way as you were already warned.

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Meet Mr Almost Right

This type of fuckboy can be quite confusing. Basically, they are one of the best sets of friends to have. But when you get too close to them and think a relationship is going to come out of it, they zone out, leaving you confused and wondering what happened. Less chats, less phone calls. They’d see you around but just say hi or something as if you were never close before. I encountered one earlier this year and we are still not on talking terms. Some of them could be BWMs who don’t want to hurt you but can’t say exactly why. It could also be that you exhibited a major turnoff.

Which of these set of fuckboys have you encountered/heard of before? Narrate below. The next post might be some questions people ask about fuckboys. You can send your questions to damiajibx@gmail.com
Note that I am not an expert in this topic but just writing out of my knowledge. I might be wrong in these posts but they are mainly meant to be comical and perhaps enlightening. Thanks for understanding.

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Introducing The Fuckboys #1

introducing the fuckboys

We live in an age where everything is staged
Where all we do is fake our feelings
– Jon Bellion

When I tell people I have eyes everywhere, most of them laugh but I actually do see a lot. Anyway, I have been meaning to do a series of blog posts on this fuckboy or demonizing thing guys do these days but procrastination. What’s this about? A fuckboy is a guy who play girls, get them emotionally or physically attached with no intention of really being with them or building a serious relationship. On Monday, a friend did a rant on Snapchat (follow me @mystique_dammy) about guys. I loved it. For real, I admire girls that are not ashamed to voice their opinions. That led to this post which I hope you find funny or not. Introducing the fuckboys!

Meet BWM
This stands for boys without a mission. That fresh fine guy who dresses just too cute and speaks great English or just has this smooth way of talking and got you feeling like ghen ghen. Just when you think you’ve got your life in order, edges slaying, brows fleeking, skin glowing and loving yourself, they walk into your lives (if you want them to). Then they profess feelings, string guitars and serenade you till you fall in love (walk into love) but they have no future use for you.

Some guys would say “let’s see how it goes”. If a guy or girl is putting you on the “let’s see how it goes” note, you should run. A guy or girl going into a relationship should know what he or she intends to add to you and the essence of the relationship. BWMs will use you in building their dreams and achieving their goals but on the long run, you’d be left behind as you were never in the future plan in the first place. This leads to the next class of guys.

Meet BBs
I have made so many jokes about this category that I have lost count. These are the bae blockers. When some BWMs got you on lock down and you’re holding on and think something good will come out of them, they could become BBs. That’s bae blocker. It could even be a guy or girl you don’t like and you’re avoiding. Yep they will block serious prospective bae. It might be happening and you wouldn’t know until someone points it out.

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Beware of BBs. You shouldn’t be afraid to ask where the “friendship” is going. I read a story recently on Instagram of a lady who had been friends with a guy for over three years and he suddenly proposed to her. She was dumbfounded as they were not even dating, only for him to say he thought they were. Odd right? She declined the proposal. People should be straightforward and declare their intentions.

Meet NFAs
These guys are cut from the same material as BWMs. However they have nothing going on for them. They don’t know what to do with their lives and can become dependent on you. Some would even date you, eat your food and spend your money but then leave you for someone else. How can they be serious with you when they are not serious with their own lives? Some are still dependent on their parents for money and aren’t even in charge of their lives. Be smart, watch and pray.

Summary of this post, beware ladies and be smart. Same goes for the guys though, there are some ladies that fall in the categories above. Surprised? Don’t be.

Which category of these guys/girls have you encountered or heard of before? Share your experience in the comments.

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